In this era of self-interest, where conversations, transactions, or other dealings are taking place, most people appear to be dissatisfied with the negative attitudes of others.

This negative attitude can manifest in lying, quarreling, benefiting at the expense of others, plotting, or deceiving.

The question arises: how is this negative attitude/thinking transmitted to children?

It happens when parents express negativity about someone in front of their children when they disagree with someone. When children hear all of this, they learn to have negative thoughts or attitudes towards anyone from here.

Thus, other negative attitudes also become part of children’s personalities through society or parents.

Prevent negative thinking:

Spouses should not express each other’s negativity in front of children. Nor should they engage in quarrels. It greatly affects the personality of children. They love their parents equally and consider them a unit and a strong support. When parents complain or express negativity about each other to the children, the children stop trusting both. Therefore, it is better to resolve your differences in the absence of children.

Do not speak ill of relatives, neighbors, or anyone else in front of children. If children see their negative behavior, prevent them from thinking negatively and tell them that at that time that person was tired, worried, or sick, so this “negative attitude” emerged from them. It is important to instill in children a hatred for inappropriate behaviors (negativity) rather than for that person.

Children often complain or make negative comments about their teachers, friends, or classmates. Caution is also needed here. Discourage the habit of making negative comments or complaints about children.

If there is indeed an important issue, listen to them, but do not form an opinion without knowing all the facts, and do not deal with your child’s affairs with bias.

Efforts should be made to instill positive thinking and attitudes in children as much as possible. Preventing negative thinking and attitudes is crucial; otherwise, they become part of their personality.

Stop negative conversations. For example, phrases like “You are worthless… You always lie… You get low grades…”

To give positive thinking, the style of conversation needs to be changed…

For example, if you study hard, you will definitely succeed. I feel good when you consider my opinion. I feel confident when you tell the truth. When you help your younger sister, she feels happy… Above all, Allah is pleased with your behavior.

Efforts should be made to keep children in positive energy. Think positively, see positively, and learn positive attitudes.