The feeling, the joy, the utter excitement cannot be expressed in words when a mother finds her pregnancy test positive. It feels as if the world has started to spin faster, the surrounding is filled with the music of joy. Tears of happiness streamed down her flushed cheeks. She decorated a small room for the planned additional member. She painted it, furnished it, filled the cupboards with clothes accessories, and toys. Her eyes sparkled every time she entered the room. It was her happy place. She starts to take care of herself which she wasn’t in a habit of. Dizziness, illness, nausea doesn’t seem like a problem. She’s a warrior all ready to go through the thick and thins.
But what happens when the world that was once spinning faster stops? The melodious surrounding that was once all bright suddenly falls all dark and gloomy? Her belly which was once carrying a new life in the form of a child is now empty. The brave warrior has fallen to the ground. Tears streaming down her cheeks but instead of joy, they represent the pain. The trauma is dreadful. Sleepless nights, untouched food, starving stomach, red eyes, and pale face. The room that she decorated with joy is now full of utter darkness. She feels pain in her heart and numbness in her body every time she enters the room. She cuddles with the toys and cries every night. Words aren’t enough to morally support her. She lost a part of herself. The child was not born but still was her blood, her flesh. Miscarriage is every women’s worst nightmare. It’s not easy to overcome the pain. It takes time to heal internally. It takes time for the warrior to wear the armor back and face the world. She needs support, she needs a hand, she needs love, to stand back on her feet.
Miscarriage is common in every part of the world. Let’s stand next to the women who go through this. Stop calling her weak. It’s not easy to stand up and overcome the pain, to lose a life, a heartbeat that made you feel loved. Instead of letting her down or expressing grieve let’s support her and make sure that she finds a ray of hope in the utter darkness.
