Recently a video became viral on the internet stated a TV interview of Mrs khan, a random “Rishta aunty” blaming women of the 21st century and their behaviors responsible for marital conflicts and divorces. She insulted angrily to the whole new generation for their protestant and treasonous behavior that disrespect marriage and its status socially. According to Mrs. Khan, modern wives should behave like back in her days as they behaved and were taught to take care of their house, children and husband is their highest priority and responsibility! Nowadays, women are too outspoken for their own good and they should stop this practice and keep quiet in front of their husbands!
Clearly, Mrs. Khan portrayed the worst image of women and their inferior status in the society that a woman does not have a right to speak in front of his own partner. Feminism in the eastern world has recently started grasping its roots but its critics too, like Mrs. Khan. It destroys the idea and gist of such movements by their false claims. Mrs khan her self is an elitist woman running a marriage bureau. People like her have a strong influence over society through their manners and thoughts. She might have stopped many girls or women from raising their voices against inequality, oppression, and violence.
Contradictory to her own statements she firstly claims that me and the ladies of my generation are taught of doing our household work by ourselves as it is our responsibility and the modern ladies demands staff and servants which is wrong and after some time during the interview she accepted that she has two servants on duty at her house to help her in household work. Many more statements like this prove that this aggressive behavior and wordless oppression was actually out of base too. People like Mrs. Khan and other male chauvinists have to understand the importance of females and their equal status in the society rather complaining about the movements like feminism.
Now women are standing for their empowerment and are on to their careers and goals. Preferences of eastern woman are recasting from domestic orientations to professional directions, which is actually not a bad thing. If a girl is getting educated and she wants to serve herself and the society through some profession, marriage should not be a frisk in between. As far as responsibilities and household duties are concerned, they can be divided equally to each of the individuals.
The other women participant harshly replied to Mrs. Khan in the same program that in a relationship they demand the respect of a wife not a vacancy of a baby’s nanny! Wardrobes cleaner or an educated manager at home. These are the things include in self-maintenance that should be adopted by every person regardless of their gender. For such activities, husbands should show up some responsibility by taking care of at least their own possessions which might turn unlading burden to wives. As far as raising voice is concerned, not the whole practice should be labeled a crime! Whenever there is oppression, violence, maltreatment and abuse, women have the complete rights to raise voices for themselves.
The destruction to feminism is multidimensional, it is not from the people like Mrs. Khan only, but it lies to those groups also who are promoting false patriarchy in a society. My very serious concern is that how the real idea of feminisn or say its essence lost and deviated to the other agendas which society is not abole to connect with. In the race of equity, equality and justice now the motives of it are altered completely with demands of higher standards respect and social positions from men and sanction to every possible activity either it is right or wrong. The social protests like Aurat March could have proved productive if they were based on rights of women and justice for the victims but they are not only demolishing the core idea of feminism but are turning public against this too. My next article will be explaining this idea further.
There should be a medium first of all, a very brief, decisive and effective that what is the actual meaning of feminism that should not disrespect any religious teachings too. The only motive of feminism should be fighting for the rights of women , raising voice against domestic violence, stopping society to scorn daughters, supporting women for their self empowerments and strengthening the victims against oppressors. Any other allegation or lame demands can turn a huge mass of public against the workers that can cause problems for the survivors too!
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