I wasn’t taught there can be a third gender, since in my childhood there were only 2 genders, male and female. And that man are attracted to women; they marry each other and there isn’t another way around.
Transgender; introduced to me as species, as a thing. Which looked like humans, had senses and emotions that I shared, but weren’t considered to be categorized as social enough to talk to, listen to, study with, work with, or even socialize with. The glass, I call society, with water being the typical gender of male and female, and transgender to be oil, was made something which couldn’t coexist. We call them hijarah, khadarah which we also use as curse words and words you taunt someone with. Then we came with a word, Khawaja Sara; I thought of it as a revolution, a word which can dehumanize a neglected gender, open doors for them to be my colleagues, to be a third option on the gender section. Rather it was just a word to pity them. With time, it also became an addition to the curse words for people who felt insecure with their sexuality.
With the term LGBT+ and rainbows echoing on my social media. Getting to see a campaign of LGBT rights, what could be it? Are some people asking for something extra? Is LGBT a disease? Isn’t gay and transgender supposed to be something? Why wasn’t I taught about this community in school or by my parents? I realized they weren’t asking for a favor or something special but the privilege of being treated the same as everyone else.
I heard about this untold community mainly from movies, or curse words. A community which one was embarrassed to be called as a taunt. In my society, this is a community that is neglected the most, with no one wanting to associate anything with them. Everyone has their particular reasons to distance themselves from these people; some have their religious beliefs for it even though if it doesn’t relate to transgenders to be specific. Then there are people who neglect LGB on scientific reasoning or the basis of health concerns, considering it unhygienic, unnatural, or cause of various STD diseases.
I believe that everyone should be given rights; women or LGBT rights, everything is the same to me, all are human rights and everyone has the right to have them and no one should be deprived of that. Being a person of faith, I always go to din for my questions and guidance, and there are many misconceptions circling the LGBT when it comes to religions. Although I believe there is always a reason behind this scripture, I tend to keep questioning and researching for its reasoning behind them to address my skepticism. With all the harshness faced by the LGBT community, the so-called oppressors in the name of the religion ignore the principle of mercifulness; which is a kind of veto card for other principles. I even don’t consider homosexuality to have anything to do with being the origin of the source of any diseases, frankly because there haven’t been any legit proof for that, and if in future there are chances of evidence found for the homosexual act to be means of STDs, then it would be time I change my opinion. It’s a common perception that if someone is okay with homosexuality, then they are okay with having same-gender intercourse, I personally think it’s gross, but it’s okay for me to think that way, and I’m not judging LG for feeling the same way for opposite gender intercourse. It’s not one of the situations where dislike ness and hate go parallel, and no one judged a kid when they disgusted PDA of any kind. The question of whether homosexuality is ethically, morally, hygienically right, or wrong for me is still not a conclusive matter, rather I’m in a constant dilemma to choose aside.
I believe that we need to be empathetic when taking any step which may affect the LGBT+ community. We need to ask ourselves, what if we were like them? If we were born like that? Why are they like that? Do they have control over themselves? Finding answers for these questions may change your opinion or you may discover something or come up with a new finding. Even if in the future, things such as homosexuality turn out to be legitimately unethical or unhealthy, then I wouldn’t support eradicating it through restriction but rather then enabling people to a certain behavior. Also, I sadly feel even normalizing and acceptance of transgenders in my society is far off any soon, and we are taking baby steps towards this issue for a long time and how can be I optimistic about that when even majority of the gender population in Pakistan is facing the issues in so many disciples of daily life, and is a gender which is referred as an inferior word and an insult, ironically even by the same gender.